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A Novel Experiment to Empower Athletes… Will You Join Us?
Craig Haworth is the founder of the Winning Youth Coaching podcast, which has served coaches around the world since 2014 with over 125 episodes that have been downloaded over 200,000 times. Craig is a passionate youth sports coach, a husband, a father of three, and a believer that coaches can change the self-esteem and future of the young people they coach. Visit winningyouthcoaching.com to see all of the great coaching resources he helps provide.
I’m a sports dad and coach who has spent the last 3 years researching the dynamics of youth sport families. And I have been noticing a disturbing trend. Does this routine sound familiar to you?
Three days before gameday you leave work early to fulfill your volunteer commitment to your child’s sports club. You spend a couple of hours lining the fields, securing goalposts and emptying trash cans.
The night before the game, you run all over the house trying to piece together the uniform and equipment needed for the game. And you are the last to bed.
On gameday, you are the first to rise and you wake your child up to say “we leave in 30 minutes”.
Your child calls out: “Where are my game shorts?!” (everything else was set out for him, but you forgot to take his shorts out of the dryer.)
You prepare a healthy breakfast for your child.
You pack the oranges in the cooler for the team snack and load up the car.
You get in the car and confirm that your child has cleats, jersey, warm weather gear, cold weather gear, bottles of water, mouthguard and ball as you drive to the game.
You are running late so you offer to drop your child off, and he asks if you could carry some of his gear in after you park the car.
As game time approaches he realizes his water bottle is empty, so you offer to fill it while he warms up with the team.
At halftime, you shuttle the snacks out to the team.
After the game you and other team parents remind the kids not to leave behind water bottles, orange peels or any other trash.
Your son asks if he can go to another player’s house after the game so you offer to take his gear home (of course you put the uniform directly into the laundry machine to prepare it for tomorrow’s game).
Have any of you ever had days that felt like that? Isn’t it time we empower our kids to handle these responsibilities themselves?
Teachers make it a priority to empower students. It’s a prevalent theme with child psychologists. And we need to embrace it. Empowerment: The act of teaching our kids to fulfill personal, social and civic responsibility. We need to teach our kids….but we also need to train ourselves.
Many have referred to our generation of parents as “Helicopter Parents” and “Controlling”. And I’ll be the first Gen X parent to admit: We handle way too many of our kids’ responsibilities in an effort to control and engineer situations. But most of these responsibilities are things that any 10, 12 or 14 year old can handle so let’s have the kids own the experience.
I recently joined the board of a new local Lacrosse program and noticed this type of behavior starting to creep in. As the responsibilities of the founding board members started piling up it occurred to me that starting a new club or sport program is a great opportunity to empower the kids.
So we took a step back as a parent board, and asked ourselves; ‘What activities needed to get this team off the ground could be done by the kids?’
The answer was – A bunch of it!
So we are setting off on an endeavor to truly let the boys own this team. We are having our player/parent kickoff meeting next week, and we have broken down all of the assignments into 6 categories. We have a parent liaison assigned for each, but they each have specific assignments that will be done by the boys. Things like:
Organize and create folders for player paperwork
Create website to share pictures
Research and plan community service project(s) for the team
Backstop net building/goal building
Organizing snacks and carpools
I am preparing the same type of ownership of much of our practices. 3-man groups that each will have specific assignments during practice.
It always comes back to the saying ‘Anything you see in your children: you either taught it or allowed it’
No one wants to be responsible for raising entitled kids, so let’s not allow it. Let’s raise hardworking, gritty kids, who take ownership in everything they do. They sweep the sheds, they carry the water.
So begins the Anti-Entitlement Experiment, or better said, the Empowerment Experiment. Craig Haworth is the founder of the Winning Youth Coaching podcast, which has served coaches around the world since 2014 with over 125 episodes that have been downloaded over 200,000 times. Craig is a passionate youth sports coach, a husband, a father of three, and a believer that coaches can change the self-esteem and future of the young people they coach. Visit winningyouthcoaching.com to see all of the great coaching resources he helps provide.
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